Why does this issue so broadly impact the obese? There are a number of reasons, both emotional and physical. The bigger a person gets, the more complications he or she will record in the bedroom— the need to have sex, sexual performance, and even intimate pleasure fall dramatically.
The physical constraints put on the over-weighed people by unwanted weight often causes sexual activity too difficult or challenging. Some fat-friendly sex positions information may help.
Furthermore, a continuing lack of energy and feeling of affliction will tend to reduce the desire for sex.
One more impact obesity has on sexuality is a psychological one. Weight problems come with reduced self-esteem for men & women and more often than not emotions of shame. These thoughts lead to an unwillingness to show off the body or make oneself vulnerable to their partner.
The physical effects of weight problems can also result in performance anxiety and problems like ED and premature ejaculation in men, which in turn may cause men & women to be reluctant to try to perform sexually. In a report of 928 obese men and women, of those looking for treatment for their obesity 50% had a lowered sex drive and trouble wanting sex, 42% felt they had concerns doing sex, and 41% said they shunned sex altogether.
Excess weight also has an effect on sexuality through its influence on marriages and relationships in and of themselves. Shame is a frequent result of obesity, and it often tends to cause an emotional imbalance within relationship. This usually takes place where one partner really feels “more worthless” than the other partner.
Besides that, the companions of overweight persons can, at times, have trouble finding their partner sexually attractive. This is particularly prevalent when the bulk of the weight gain occurred over the course of the relationship. At this point in a relationship, it is aggravating and difficult to face for both partners, and conversation about these challenges is usually avoided. However, deterrence of this subject only brings about further problems in a relationship, as it cuts off lines of communication. On the other hand, some men find fat women very attractive.
Numerous specifics play into the sexual problems experienced by people with unhealthy weight. When physical issues are severely and exponentially boosted by psychological issues, as occurs with obesity, sexual dysfunction can seem an impossible hurdle.
It is necessary, even though, to seek help if you’re experiencing problems with sexual performance or sex drive due to obesity. Just taking the first steps to look for for obesity treatment might have a remarkable psychological & emotional impact, enabling obese persons to feel some level of control over their circumstances.
Sexual satisfaction is a fundamental human need, and it’s only one more crucial purpose to care for your health and try to find balanced solutions to the problem of obesity.
Obesity and Erectile Dysfunction in men
According to research, between fifteen and thirty million American men have a problem achieving and maintaining an erection. Furthermore, statistics indicate that sixty percent of Americans are overweight. This leads one to wonder if there could be a link between obesity and erectile dysfunction. Well, if you are an overweight man then unfortunately you are at risk of not being able to enjoy a healthy sex life well into old age.
Not only being obese predisposes one to cardiovascular system conditions such as atherosclerosis – cholesterol build up on the walls of blood vessels that slow down blood flow to your body organs, including the penis. Secondly, obese men have reduced levels of testosterone, a male hormone vital to sexual function. Such men are usually ideal candidates for PDE inhibitors drugs like viagra (or BlueChew).
Some obese men, who also have higher levels of estrogen in their system, may suffer from man boobs or Gynecomastia too.
Males who lose weight have improved erectile function and improved sexual experiences along with improved overall health. Becoming more active and employing exercise daily will decrease your risk and can protect against E.D. Dropping only 10 percent of body weight throughout a two month period will enhance erectile function.
Women having diminished desire for sex also have the option to look for supplements to help better sex.
Jose
Each time I see an obese person, my immediate thought is, “How could he possibly make love?”
I admit this is rather an odd question to ask myself. It’s kind of asking someone connected to a life-support, “How are you doing?”
At any rate, one time I asked a friend who is married to a fairly overweight guy how they do it. Without skipping a beat she said, “I stay on top.” Wryly, I said, “I thought so. You would have been squeezed to death if it was the other way around.”
But sex and obesity is not just about who stays on top or what positions make the copulation as natural as “nuts and bolts” thing; or satisfying, not aggravating.
Obese men and women do have issues that greatly affect their sexuality. These are generally grouped into:
1. Physical:
Sex is, first and foremost, a physical activity. It is a form of an exercise. And to go through the entire routine, and walk the extra mile if need be, one has to be physically fit.
If sex is a sport, it would require an athlete high on stamina, the strength for weights, the balance of a gymnast and suppleness of an acrobat.
Recent research shows that during sex, your body experiences physical changes equivalent to an intense workout. It gets your heart racing, muscles stretching, energy increasing and calories burning.
According to Healthcentral.com, having sex three times a week burns up calories equivalent to jogging about 1.4 miles – something an obese person can hardly do.
From my experience as a serve-and-volley player, a moderate sex is more physically demanding than a set of tennis doubles.
2. Medical:
According to a French study (webmd.boots.com), obese women are four times more likely to have unplanned pregnancies than women of normal weight, this despite the fact that they are less sexually active than their sexier counterparts.
Obese men, on the other hand, are more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction and develop sexually transmitted infections compared to men of normal weights. They are also found to have fewer sexual partners in a 1-year period.
Both genders are also likely to be taking drugs for medical illnesses that further diminish their appetite for sex.
3. Psychological:
Would you want to watch the parade if you know it will rain?
Being obese is a psychological burden. It lowers a person’s self-esteem resulting to feelings of shame.
Desire is driven by the mind. If your mind is already burdened by feelings of inadequacy due to physical and medical reasons, what is there to fuel your desire?
In a study of obese men and women, more than 50% had decreased drive and trouble wanting sex, 40% had sex performance problems while the rest avoided sex altogether.
Statistics show that more than 61% of the adult population in the U.S. are either overweight or obese. Majority of them are constantly battling medical issues like diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, lower back pains, sleep disorders and many others.
By any standard, that’s a lot of people who have sung their swan song for sex.
Nick
Sharing my story…im an older guy
When I started dating, I had problems holding on to a girl. They broke off with me after a week, some even lesser. Being naïve, I was not bothered by it, other than some bruised ego.
After college and I started working, I met a middle aged woman with marital problems. Before the week was over, we ended up in bed together
Thus I developed a preference for middle-aged women. By middle-aged, I mean, married women with marital problems, separated or single moms searching for meaningful relationships or just someone to cuddle with when the urge comes.
Weird? Yes! Even abnormal. I guess I had too much of a mother complex in me that I had (and still do) a natural affinity for them, as they, for me. Moral compunctions aside, I found it very satisfying, sex wise. I had variety and variations.
Middle-aged women are an interesting lot when it comes to love and sex or sex and love, or however you arrange them. While it is easy to assume that they all are grounded on solid marital or relationship grounds, a lot are searching for something they, themselves, cannot quite figure out what.
It’s just a feeling from deep within their guts that something is missing in their lives.
That search often has a sense of urgency in it. The onset of age, motherhood, changing physical attributes, career pressure, hubbies who are starting to look around, etc., – all these erode on their self worth or self-esteem, make them feel inadequate, incapable or downright insecure.
Middle-aged women who are in “search” are often vulnerable and can easily find themselves in the accommodating arms of men who can make them feel like a woman – sexy, wanted and desirable.
But things are not that straightforward. Though looking for someone to scratch an itch, they have different ideas on how to be scratched to their satisfaction. Different strokes for different folks.
But before switching your preferences from spring chicks to bouncy hens, take note that your middle-aged woman could be any of the following:
– The starry-eyed:
Having had their romance dashed to pieces by errant husbands (there is plenty
of them), their marriages are either on shaky grounds or recently dissolved. They may have parted ways with their ex’s. If hey are still living together for whatever reason, their abode could be likened to a boiling kettle or colder than a freezer. Either way, the woman has to get out for a breather, to get a respite.
But they are very cautions, even suspicious of men making overtures. They want to meet someone who will love them forever, no matter what; their soul mates. Since they are on the search for a relationship “holy grail,” they may have missed the pleasures of sexual contact for a long time.
They are tight as a bowstring, yet insist, unconvincingly, of love before sex. A slight play on words, though, can change that order of priority faster than a traffic light on a busy intersection.
When they give in (they usually do), expect to be engulfed in a torrent of pent-up passion. It’s like being on the path of onrushing waters from a huge hole in a dam.
– The stand alone:
They are usually single moms or have had their union dissolved ages ago.
Knowing that they can stand alone without a man in their lives, they are very independent and tough. A lot of them even consider their singleness a blessing.
They haven’t totally written off men from their lives, though. They are still open and willing to meet men they find interesting.
Getting them to bed is a matter of timing. If they have the urge, you got it made, If not, prepare to put in a lot of motivating extras to make her go with you. This is where your art of seduction will come in very handy.
When they do, they can be as passionate as any middle-aged woman denied of sexual pleasures for a long, long time.
– The charity cases:
They can be married, single moms or long separated from a hubby or a boy friend. What is common among them is that they have never made a living for themselves; to be financially independent.
Once supported by a husband or a boy friend, now they rely on parents, siblings or children for support.
For them love and sex or sex and love come with a price – financial support.
They don’t like to be called hookers. They just want to be able to buy things to carry them through life.
Making out with this type can be very taxing. If you can do it once, don’t even try it again –unless you have a thick wallet. The can bleed you dry.
– The Alpha Females
Married, separated, single moms, whatever, they are an interesting lot.
hey are usually very good looking, attractive, and beautiful. They are also well-accomplished in life, either having their own businesses or occupying executive positions at work. They are mostly intelligent and witty – qualities men don’t particularly like in their women.
For them, love is in the back of their minds and sex is on a “needs basis.” I once had this type of woman. Our sex relationship was simple. She simply said, “If we are both around and both feel it, let’s do it.”
If they are not dominating out of bed, they are in bed. They want to have control.
They are great companions for casual relationships, not for marriage. If you get involved with this type of middle-aged woman, play it by her rules, not yours. And be prepared to be dumped anytime. Don’t shed a tear. It was good while it lasted, anyway.
Middle-aged women are not guinea pigs or a speck of bacteria that is placed under a microscope for study. They are people, very sensitive, driven by an inner need which, by convention or social norms, cannot be fully expressed or displayed as they ought.
Thus, they have to be observed, related with, be attached to, to find their motivations about sex and love or love and sex. They can be very passionate or fiery, cold and calculating; felicitous or demanding.
Compared to men, when it comes to love and sex, they are the occupational force. They stay for the long haul. Men? They are the invading army. They come and go.