The Big O : Female Orgasms, inequities & Oscar-winning performances
I have read in magazines about G-spot orgasms and clitoral orgasm. What is the difference And do all women have a G-spot?
Magazines are not a great source of sexual enlightenment for young women because they discuss the acquisition of clitoral and C-spot orgasms as if the process were an exact science. It is not.
You might want to have a look at this info-graphic on all HOT spots on woman’s body.
Female sexual function is so complicated that scientists cannot even agree on tangible stuff such as anatomical structure. The full extent of the clitoris was discovered only in 1997 when the Australian urologist Helen O’Connor, carried out post-mortem research on the sexual organs of ten women using 3-D photography.
She discovered that far from being the tiny hooded bean visible at the top of the labia, the ‘body’ of the clitoris is a large internal structure comprising two arms up to 9 cm long that flare backwards into the body.
And despite the fact that it has had acres of press coverage, the existence of the G-spot has never been proved. Although some women experience increased sensation inside the vagina, scientists are not sure whether this is due to nerves, pressure on the urethra or impact on the internal extension of the clitoris.
There certainly doesn’t seem to be a unique G-spot structure. In 1997, a review of all the available research on the subject was carried out by Dr Terence Hines of the Department of Psychology at Pace University, in New York.
He failed to find any evidence to substantiate its existence. Indeed, Dr Hines declared the G-spot to be a ‘sort of gynecological UFO: much searched for, much discussed but unverified by objective means’,
It is hard to believe that any aspect of human anatomy could remain a mystery to scientists who have managed to clone sheep and graft human ears on to mice, but then female sexual function has never exactly been a scientific priority. This lack of information has led to much confusion and left many women feeling ‘less than’ because they don’t appear to have a piece of anatomy that might not exist.
There are no universal truths about female orgasm because every woman is different, but in general, most women can achieve orgasm if they have enough clitoral stimulation and most can orgasm during penetrative sex if they have had enough clitoral stimulation beforehand.
However, few women can have a penetrative orgasm without any direct clitoral stimulation and although many women experience sensitivity and can orgasm, if the area known as the G-spot is stimulated, lots of women don’t feel anything there at all.
There is really only one way to make your mind up on this Issue and, fortunately, you don’t need anyone to help you. To experience clitoral orgasm, just find your clitoris (8,000 nerve endings, you can’t miss it), lubricate your finger and rub until you feel all fizzy and start juicing an internal lemon.
To find your G-spot, lie down on your bed, knees bent, feet flat with a small pillow under your bum. Insert your lubricated middle finger about 5 cm (2 in) into your vagina and press towards your navel.
When you hit the right spot, pump firmly and it should start to feel nice. The sensation is less fizzy and more juicy, If you use the thumb of your other hand to gently stimulate your clitoris at the same time you should feel some very intense sensations. You may reach orgasm and even ejaculate:
If you don’t, don’t worry about it.
Success is a journey, not a destination.
My partner experiences an extra shower of fluid which he finds most stimulating sexually when I orgasm. He’s never come across anything like this before so he says. Am I one of the lucky few women who possess the pleasure treasure of female ejaculation ? Release me from my curiosity.
Female ejaculation is not a common sexual phenomenon so it is unsurprising that your boyfriend has never encountered it before. The experience you describe was first documented by Dr Ernest Grafenberg in 1950, though no one paid the concept much attention until Dr Beverly Whipple and John Perry packaged female ejaculation as the ultimate orgasm in 1981.
Their book, The G Spot; promoted the theory that G-spot stimulation led to a kind of ‘supergasm’ which made women spurt a liquid which was comparable to male prostatic fluid.
Naturally, the idea caused a stir in the media and the ejaculatory orgasm was added to the ever increasing shopping list of ‘must have’ sexual experiences (which already included the clitoral orgasm, the vaginal orgasm, the multiple orgasm, the simultaneous orgasm and the G-spot orgasm).
The ejaculatory orgasm, however, proved to be so elusive that, unusually, men and women began to query the theory. Whipple and Perry stood their ground, They organized demonstrations in front of doctors – on stage and even live on radio – and eventually proved beyond reasonable doubt that a small percentage of women could spurt fluid like a man when they reached orgasm.
But when tests on the composition of the ejaculate revealed traces of urea and creatinine, the primary components of urine, there then followed a great debate as to whether the emissions, which spurted from the urethra as opposed to the vulva, were to do with orgasm (yessss), or urination (yeuch).
Over two decades later, no one has managed to confirm female ejaculation as anything other than a Spurt of urine caused by a brief relaxation of the bladder muscles after intense G-spot stimulation and orgasm.
Given that withholding the elimination of urine and feces is one of Our earliest personal responsibilities, few women care to think that their sexual excitement leads to such a loss of control and, as such, statistics suggest that the ‘pleasure treasure’ you describe affects fewer than 10 per cent of us.
Of that 10 per cent, the confident (like you) consider themselves to be members of an elite sexual club, while the insecure consider incontinence pants. If you didn’t already know these facts, I hope that the reinterpretation of your ‘lucky shower’ as involuntary urination won’t negatively affect your perception of an experience that seems to give you and your partner so much pleasure.
It is worth remembering that all sex is based on swapping bodily fluids (or lubricants), even urine, so the debate as to whether female ejaculatory fluid is urine or something comparable to male prostatic fluid is fairly irrelevant.